Some children demonstrate aggressive behaviors. Aggressive behaviors can cause harm to another person. Children often demonstrate aggression for two different reasons: a reaction to frustration or a way of achieving a goal. Aggressive behaviors can also be part of bullying, but bullying is a more specific type of behavior that involves other components (see Bullying section).
Some minor aggressive behaviors are not uncommon in schools, which does not mean that they should be tolerated. Therefore, it is important that the school rules are very clear.
Other children have great difficulty following school rules, even if they do not engage in aggressive behaviors. They may demonstrate a persistent resistance and a reluctance to compromise, give in, or negotiate. Such defiance can be deliberate or persistent testing of boundaries. They may ignore orders, argue, or fail to accept responsibility for bad actions.
It is helpful to remember that aggressive behaviors are often a reflection of behaviors witnessed in the household or even in the school environment. A teacher can play an important role in finding the balance between the strict enforcement of rules and providing a safety net for these children.
What can we do to help someone who is very aggressive?
- Be firm and clear about rules and expectations. If a student perceives that the rules are bendable, overly flexible, or unfair, they will be more likely to break current and future rules;
- Try to involve students in the making of the class rules, renegotiating them whenever necessary;
- When a student demonstrates a sign of anger or aggression, respond calmly to prevent the situation from escalating.
What are unhelpful reactions?
- Responding with anger and aggression to a student braking rules or showing aggressive behavior. It won’t help resolve the situation and can prolong it;
- Threatening but not following through. For example, if the agreement to instate a stricter supervision if an aggressive action is repeated, this needs to be enforced if a new episode occurs.
- Ignoring aggressive attitudes or minor actions can delay the resolution of conflicts.